Many moons ago, a work colleague nicknamed me “Blankie.” As she put it, my easygoing and gentle nature with others felt like a warm, cozy blanket wrapped around those I encountered.
Over the years, I’ve come to recognize that I inherited that trait from my mother. Mom’s sweet spirit immediately put everyone at ease. Strangers would strike up conversations with her. Small children would run to her, tightly hugging her knees. And family and friends adored her.
Mom was often the regulator for everyone else’s nervous systems – the steady, grounding one who helped others calm down, think clearly, or feel safe. It’s a powerful gift, and she gave that to me. A la, Blankie.
If you’ve read my posts this year, then you know that 2025 has brought its share of some lovely highs and some pretty rough lows. On top of the challenges we’ve faced is the constant backdrop of navigating a very strange and deeply concerning American landscape.
So it’s no surprise that, at times, this year has done a number on my nervous system. And I’ve come to understand that this Blankie is so, so good for the world’s nervous system – but the world is not always good for mine.
You don’t have to be a Blankie-type to feel the heaviness of a worn-out nervous system. If you’re feeling weary or super-short on patience, your nervous system is likely seeking a safe place for your mind and body. A nervous system on edge isn’t sustainable. We must do the work to figure out what practices, people, and places help regulate us.
Lately, my go-to is a combo of less social media, exercise, and a LOT of music (like this goodie *) that reminds me God is still in control – even, and perhaps especially – when it doesn’t look or feel that way.
Maybe yours is a walk outside before or after stressful interactions. Perhaps it’s time with a friend whose presence feels light and calming. Or, your go-to might be prayer, journaling, or even a favorite line dance that helps you reset.
Learning to steward our own nervous systems, instead of letting them be drained dry, can be easier said than done – but it’s necessary. And, it’s not just good for us, it’s also good for everyone else around us.
Why?
Because a regulated you and me can show up with even more love for ourselves and others, without running on empty. 🤎
Life is tough, but so are YOU:
What helps you regulate your nervous system?
* I don’t own the rights to this song – it just soothes my mind and body.
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